I0 Things To Never Do

Waste Your Time With Jealousy: It’s a useless emotion that disintegrates everything it touches.  Know that there is enough to go around and one having does not mean the other will have not. If you’re with someone who is trustworthy, trust them.  If you’re not, it’s time to reevaluate your relationship.

Stay In and Cry Over Someone Who Isn’t Crying Over You: We only have so many days and nights in our lives and while you might not want to go out or spend time with friends, it’s the best way to move on and create some fun new memories (and possibly meet someone who won’t bring tears to your eyes).

Forget That We’re All Human Beings: We’re all flawed and have a wide range of talents, insecurities, worries, desires, fears, needs and wants.  Some of us just hide our vulnerabilities better than others. When engaging others, try and remember that we’re all spirits in shells trying to do the best we can while here on earth.  Be gentle.

Toy With Other People’s Emotions:  You’re either in or out, and if you can’t decide, it’s best to stay out.

Allow Fear To Hold You Back:  Think of fear as a bully.  If you stay silent and allow it to torment you, you’ll be pegged a victim and be pushed around on a daily basis.  Stand up to it and punch it square in the face and there’s a good chance you’ll recognize your own strength and send a message to the universe that you’re a fighter who will not allow challenges to keep you from living your best life and being your best self.

Get Stuck in a Moment:  You’re going to make mistakes and take wrong turns, and that’s  a good thing.  How else will you ever grow and learn?  Take inventory, make amends, commit to do the better next time and keep moving forward (and up).

Assume You (Or They) Can Read Minds: The only way to avoid miscommunication is to sit with someone and have an honest and open dialogue. It may get messy but there is a good chance it will bring clarity in a way emails, silence or text messages never can.

Put Yourself Down: If you cannot support and respect yourself how in the world can you expect anyone else to?

Take Love/Friendship For Granted:  As we grow older, their value becomes clearer.  In this life, the bonds with one another are all we have.  They are what make life beautiful, meaningful and real.  When appreciated, these bonds will not only infuse your own life with joy but help the lives of others blossom.  Your legacy lies in how you treat those around you.

Give Up On Yourself: Even if you have hit rock bottom, you can always start climbing back up. Your success is up to you.

Boiling It Down

When you really look at it, it all comes down to decision-making.  Who do you want to be in the world? What kind of legacy do you want to leave? 

Do you want to be someone’s regret or their greatest treasure? 

Do you want to be seen as someone who cuts corners or someone who can be counted on to do a thorough job?

Do you want to be seen as someone who makes the most of opportunities or sits and complains about how unfair life is?

Do you want to be a victim or a warrior?

Aside from acts of God and major health issues, your life is completely under your control. You determine how much you will accept and how you will allow it to impact you.  This isn’t always easy to hear or accept but that doesn’t make it any less true.

Define yourself.

Define your life.

Go get em’!

Sometimes

It’s kinder to just tell them what they want to hear.

You’ll follow your instincts right into an embarrassing situation.

You can run to the top of the mountain. Other times, getting out of bed is a chore.

You’ll try everything and nothing will work.

Everything will work out beautifully.

You’ll grow from the smallest interaction.

You’ll have falling outs with those you love.  Love is what encourages you to work through your issues and come back together.  Don’t forget, friendship is built on love as much as romance.

You’ll fall flat on your face.

You’ll impress the holy hell out of those around you.

You’ll shake your head in disbelief when someone chooses a White Castle combo over filet mignon.

You’ll forget how precious and beautiful and capable you really are.

I’ll do my best to remind you.

What Might Happen If…

You realized that your mind were playing tricks on you and things weren’t as they seem?

You simply let go of the idea that you needed to control a situation for it to work to your benefit?

You laughed and cried without holding back?

You allowed yourself to love with great abandon?

You accepted that you were worthy of all that is in your life?

You stopped using false apathy as a way to protect yourself from very real feelings?

You stopped caring about things that didn’t matter?

You lived to a higher standard?

You treated people with respect?

You treated yourself with respect?

You made a committment to give yourself the best possible chance at the best possible life by doing what is necessary to get to where it is you ache to go?

You did a life upgrade and cut out all of the things, habits and people who held you back?

You showed appreciation for those things and people who help you move forward?

You said “yes” to your life?

You stopped making excuses and started to make a plan?