A few days ago, while sitting across from my consigliere, I shared my thoughts about someone who I felt was quite brutal in the way they related to those around them. Critical, unyielding, demanding, unforgiving and flat-out unkind at times, this person made the smallest exchange a task. “I just can’t seem to get through to them,” I said, in a frustrated tone.
My conversation companion looked at me and smiled gently, “I know how you feel,” he said.
Expecting him to share a story about his own interpersonal relationships, I waited with bated breath for an explanation that would help me “fix” future exchanges with this person. But I was in for a surprise. The words that came out of his mouth weren’t related to him or anyone in his circle.
“I feel that way when I speak to you?” he said.
I was confused. Was I brutal and mean and unkind and didn’t know it? “No, no, not to those around you. In fact, you’re too polite. I am talking about the brutal way you treat yourself. You’re so hard on yourself and it’s frustrating to people like me who see all of the wonderful attributes you have,” he said.
I started to think of the ways I pushed myself in my career, at the gym, in my personal life. I thought about the expectations I had and the terrible way I never seemed to forgive myself when I made a mistake or took a misstep.
Now, I am sure that I am not the only one who can give myself a little lip so I decided to share this humbling exchange in an attempt to open your eyes to the ways you talk to and treat yourself.
A Few Things To Consider:
-Do you trust your intuition?
-Do you allow yourself to make mistakes?
-Do you give yourself room to explore?
-Do you fill your life with good people you can trust?
-Do you take care of your health?
-Do you show yourself love?
How will you be better to you?