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I have received a few emails asking for a re-post because some readers have trouble finding the piece on the site.  I adored your comments on the initial post.  Thank you.   When I was an infant, my mother left me.  … Continue reading →

“You can tell the moment you walk into a room that your aura is off right now,” said my friend, Holly, when I complained that a wrinkle had appeared overnight (no joke).  “It’s a stress line,” she said.  “You’re energy … Continue reading →

The best thing you can do is give someone exactly what they asked for. You have to let go of the ideal job/home/relationship/look in order to get to something better than you have now (if only the same thing you … Continue reading →

Lately, I have begun to understand that being open enough to give unconditional love to another human being is as much a blessing as receiving it.

You cannot change another person and being friends with or in love with the “ideal” them is stressful for everyone involved. Doing new things does for your soul what water does for a dry houseplant. If you lie, you’re a liar.  … Continue reading →

Up until very recently, I was a strong believer in the old “when you help someone it’s always nice” theory. Boy, was I an idiot. No, this is not a martyr post there’s not a hint of sarcasm to be … Continue reading →

Love.

Staycation:  Super fun, super relaxing, super eye-opening. Diet Ginger Ale: President Clinton used to sip the stuff all day, every day and now I know why.  This little cousin of Sprite Zero is quite tasty. Soul Music: OK, always liked … Continue reading →

After a few false starts, I finally put in my vacation days last week, thanks to an growling expiration date. Knowing there was no way I could do Italy (wanted to desperately) and a short stint to Miami was out (friends were … Continue reading →

No one has to believe in your relationship for you to succeed. A liar is not someone who tells a lie.  A liar is someone who is afraid of the truth and when you live in that kind of fear, lying … Continue reading →

If You Want Something: You’re going to need to be clear about it. You’re going to have to fight like hell for it. You’re going to need to make a plan. You’re going to have to lead others to it. Waiting … Continue reading →

Ooh La La (I heart Goldfrapp) Hanging on Too Long Duffy Set Fire To The Rain Adele Get Together Madonna Strict Machine Goldfrapp Paris (Ooh La La) Grace and The Nocturnals You Know I’m No Good Amy Winehouse Hands All Over Maroon … Continue reading →

It could be that they don’t care, but more likely they do not know. It might be that you can’t, but equally as likely that you can and aren’t trying hard enough. It’s possible it’s black and white, but more … Continue reading →

You have something to bring to the table. You have talents to share. You have dreams worth working towards. You have a voice that has a right to be heard. You have trust that deserves to be protected. You have … Continue reading →

 A Grill:  Whether male or female, one needs a grill in the summertime.  Walk thee to the Home Depot and get yourself a little/big/fancy/basic (charcoal) grill.  Weber lasts longest but I got the little red sale grill for $40 bucks and … Continue reading →

I don’t know many people who don’t want to be happy, but I do know a hell of a lot of folks who want something for nothing.  It’s a simple fact that bliss comes at a cost.  The concept that … Continue reading →

Little pieces of wisdom from friends, colleagues and strangers. “When someone bad leaves your life, it might hurt because you’ve grown used to them and will miss them, but really, you’ve won the lottery and you need to keep reminding … Continue reading →

When I was an infant, my mother left me.  As a child, my father beat me for any reason he could come up with, including the fact that I was not a boy.  As a teenager, I woke up one Sunday … Continue reading →

Who are we to try to control another or try and hold onto a past that is ready to die?  What is it our right to say that life cannot move on or another cannot change? How might we feel if … Continue reading →

If you have ever felt the harsh burn of someone else’s condemnation, you know that there are few things that sting like being judged.  For whatever reason, knowing that someone else does not accept you as you are or accepts you but … Continue reading →

“Are you happy?” “I want to be.” “Let me know when you are and I will remind you to keep doing what you’re doing.”

Remember that the next time you’re down there. You’re not as alone as you think you are.

Even when you’re scared. Even when you’re worried your audience won’t like it. Even when you can’t find the words. Even when someone tries to silence you. Even when your inner critic condemns you. Even time threatens you. Even when the truth … Continue reading →

If you are living in the EnWhySee, I know you are smiling from ear-to-ear today thanks to the sun finally paying us a visit!  You know I love music, so I thought I would put together another Memorial Day playlist … Continue reading →

A Canadian couple has decided to let their infant “choose” its gender. Yup, you read that right.  I am all about being open-minded and letting people live as they see fit but this just seems downright silly to me.  I’d also … Continue reading →

A few questions intended to help you get to know yourself better. If you were a brand, what would you sell and how trusted would you be? If you could go back in time and do three things differently, what would … Continue reading →

It’s a funny thing, universal justice.  Just as you let go of the pain caused by someone who has hurt you, they begin to feel the sharp pain brought on by regret. I always say that it’s never too late to apologize but … Continue reading →

She’s absolutely incredible.  She was 61 here!

“I just want to know what’s going to happen.” “I wish I knew where this was headed.” “What if I look back and realize this was a mistake?” I have had three different people say essentially the same thing to … Continue reading →

I just love this kind of stuff!

You weren’t supposed to figure out your life’s purpose and the whole purpose of life was found in the journey itself? You allowed yourself to believe that you could have as many chances as you needed to in order to … Continue reading →

I recently attended a lovely dinner party at a new friend’s place at The Plaza Hotel (which, by the way, has lost all of it’s charm, I am afraid). My companion and I brought a bottle of wine but not after … Continue reading →

Well, isn’t she a crafty little thing.

I am not sure what the weather is like where you are but New York is soaking wet! What are your favorite “Rainy Day” activities?

There is wisdom to be found everywhere.  Here are a few bits that have come my way recently. “I am sick of feeling bad.  I am going to see the upside of every situation for a while and see how … Continue reading →

The night before last, I came home and starting to share a strange exchange I had with a coworker the night before.  Before I could get my words out, my conversation partner jumped in. “Just tell me you took care … Continue reading →

You are the only one in your way. You call the shots in your life. You choose what you will and won’t accept from others. You are the one with the answers. You know who you really are and it’s … Continue reading →

Remembering my most special someone who passed away too long ago today.

Brenda Della Casa is a columnist and author who specializes in writing about interpersonal relationships. She is also something of a rarity: a female raised by a grandfather. In this interview, conducted via email, Della Casa describes her experience. Continue reading →

Tomorrow is the anniversary of the day I lost everything that mattered to me.  I miss you, Papa.

 I really need a few great writers looking for bylines on Staggered USA. Think fun, male-friendly wedding pieces that highlight everything from family drama to bachelor party planning. Your pieces will be blasted to our thousands of Twitter and Facebook followers and … Continue reading →

From Real Simple By Anne-Marie O’Neilla Want to learn the secret to a great first encounter? Five pros share their most effective moves. Stop Talking A lot of folks have a habit of imparting endless information during a first encounter. … Continue reading →

It’s easy to forget that while we are alike in terms of our shells (a head, a body, a couple of eyes…) we are not the same. Some of our experiences, values, needs, wants and desires may be in sync while others … Continue reading →

It could be that your partner is calling the shots in your relationship (making you jump through hoops in the process) or maybe your gossipy co-workers have created a Tsunami out of a ripple.  Whatever the situation, taking control isn’t … Continue reading →

Isn’t this just lovely?

To grab ahold of the good things that come your way. To walk through the door and see what is on the other side. To see yourself clearly. To accept that life is not perfect but it is a gift. … Continue reading →

See Bridesmaids.  Hilarious!