Category Archives: Peace of Mind
10 Things I Know To Be True
Wanting something for yourself (career, comfort, time with friends) doesn’t mean you love them less. If they cannot understand this, it’s about them, not about you not having your priorities straight.
Love is not enough, but it’s what makes us do what needs to be done to save what matters.
There is nothing more beautiful than a smart, independent, open, passionate, self-respecting woman who does what it takes to live the life she deserves to live.
Exclamation points should only be used in positive texts. If you want to use an exclamation point in a text while upset, perhaps you should pick up the phone.
Respecting boundaries is important. Your own. Theirs. Them respecting their own and yours. If you tell them once, it should be enough.
If they didn’t do something before they got what they wanted from you, it’s not that they don’t know it’s rude or disrespectful.
Men will always fight for the woman they love. If he’s talking and not acting, he’s not fighting.
When a woman goes silent, she’s had enough.
No one wants to work with a workaholic.
You can love someone with all of your heart, but if you don’t feel understood, it will never work.
On Writing: A Word From My Literary Idols
“There is nothing to writing. All you do is sit down at a typewriter and bleed.” E. Hemingway
“The difference between the right word and the almost right word is the difference between lightning and a lightning bug.” M. Twain
“You never have to change anything you got up in the middle of the night to write.” S. Bellow
“We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect.” A. Nin
“Writers aren’t people exactly. They’re awhole lot of people trying so hard to be one person.” F.Scott Fitzgerald
“…since it’s about drifting, forgetting, passing time without noticing. Instead, quietly pay attention…” Tom Chiarella (my favorite living writer)
“Only a man who has felt ultimate despair is capable of feeling ultimate bliss.” Dumas (My favorite writer).
Sometimes, I think I am just a peculiar and wacky girl…then I read the comments of those I admire and I realize that I am just a writer. I only hope to be worthy to have my name mentioned among them someday.
Things You Might Like: Young Victoria
Last night, after receiving a few texts that pulled at my heartstrings, I decided to put my writing aside, pour a glass of wine and watch “Young Victoria”. Now, those who know me well know that I have seen this movie no less than a dozen times, and each time, I cry as though it’s my first viewing.
Though I know real life romances are flawed and complicated and often scattered in the beginning (I did write the book on this) the on-screen depiction of Prince Albert and Queen Victoria is without a doubt the most romantic and beautiful love story I have ever seen. There is not a moment in the film that doesn’t touch me or make me swoon and daydream. Prince Albert is the perfect man in this film!
If you are a romantic like yours truly and haven’t seen it, you’re missing out.
25 Ways to Live a Happier Life
As much as you might want to change someone else, you can’t. That said, it’s important not to buy into the idea that we cannot change ourselves because we can. Take in the whole lesson in that sentence. This means that other people can change. Out goes that whole “Zebra/Stripe” theory.
Living in sync with your value system is commendable (and don’t allow anyone else to convince you otherwise). Still, it’s important to do a temperature check every so often to make sure that you’re not holding onto ideals and values that no longer fit your life. Doing so isn’t honorable, it’s inflexible and limiting.
Appreciate those men and women who come into your life but do your best not to try and force them to stay longer than they want to. The tighter your grip, the harder they will try to pull away.
It’s not always easy to let go of toxic relationships (especially if you have invested a lot of time in them). Still, sipping poison every day will slowly kill your chances of living your best life.
Treat those around you like valuable human beings. Show a little compassion, listen intently, and give to those around you. You don’t realize it now but those little gifts work like pebbles in the ocean and create ripples in the universe.
Do what you love as often as you can, even if you cannot do it full-time.
Clean up your mental and physical space.
Look in the mirror and get to know the person staring back at you. Instead of pointing out his or her flaws, give them props for making it this far.
Make time for those people who ask you to spend some time with them.
Live with honor. There’s a lot to be said for a person who does what he or she says they will do with dignity.
Watch the sun rise. Play in the water. Walk barefoot in the sand. Eat a S’more. Marvel at a bonfire.
Realize that you have a choice in every situation. You’re rarely at the mercy of someone else.
Hold yourself to a higher standard.
Understand that most of the time, it’s not personal.
Find reasons to laugh.
Cook something. Better yet, cook something for someone.
Find a way to give something to a stranger. Pay it forward a little.
Never miss out on something or someone wonderful because you’re ego convinced you to.
Always find a way to try something new.
Love with great enthusiasm (but know that love often includes pain).
Sit down and take it all in, just don’t allow yourself to get stuck.
Treat people as you would hope they would treat you, even when they don’t.
Look at flowers. They are truly miracles of nature.
Remember all of the wonderful experiences you have had.
Instead of dwelling on what you don’t have, be grateful. You’re alive. Do something with your time here.
