Category Archives: Brenda Della Casa

You know what you want. You know what you like. You know what you’re looking for. Well, you think you do. Then someone comes along and challenges everything you thought you knew. It’s then that you realize that what you … Continue reading →

Life is not always easy, but if you’re lucky, you’ll have the insight to enjoy the moments you find yourself in peace. You’ll cherish that time between chaos and heartache, disappointment and fear. You’ll appreciate periods when kindness, love, opportunity, … Continue reading →

No, this is not about spending all of your time focusing on finding a romantic partner. This is about finding ways to fall in love with the world around you, with yourself, with all of your friendships, your passions, great playlists … Continue reading →

Turned off your phone and gave your full and complete attention to the moment you’re in? Said exactly what you want to say? Only spent time with people who respected, protected, loved and appreciated you? Unleashed your passion without reservation? … Continue reading →

Having fully and completely discussed the acts that constitute sexy bedroom behavior with women who know what they want (and don’t want) from a partner, I can attest to the fact that no one gets giddy over a jackrabbit or … Continue reading →

Never Eat In Front of People Without Offering Something. There is a big difference between a woman and a lady and a gentleman tips his hat to both. Your word is your bond. Protect your reputation. It’s worth more than … Continue reading →

Girl: Oh man, why do I text him when I drink Mojitos? Guy: Haha, it’s true! You never text with wine. Did he write back? Girl:  Of course not! I’m the crazy girl! I hope he blocked me the last … Continue reading →

You must accept that some people can only love you at a distance. You will send the right text to the wrong person and the wrong text to the right person.  You will wake up and realize that you’ve been … Continue reading →

Last night, while sipping skinny mojitos at Cafe Noir with my darling & inspiring friend, Christopher, I found myself in a chaotic trance.  What started as an informational interview prompted by him became a terrifying (and much-needed) wake-up call for me, thanks … Continue reading →

This weekend marks the anniversary of the date my life changed forever, the day I woke up to an empty world. Though he was not famous, he was admired by everyone who met him.  A gracious, kind, handsome, dignified, honest, … Continue reading →

Book a Spa Day: I am a fan of deep-tissue, hot stone massages but everyone has their own favorite ways to be pampered. Check out local spas for extended Mother’s Day deals and book a session for less. No time? … Continue reading →

Growing up, I didn’t have a mama but I always had Madonna.  So, Happy Mother’s Day to the woman who taught me to educate myself and be independent, strong, bold, provocative and to fight for my place in this world. A … Continue reading →

Your friend is your needs answered. He is your field which you sow with love and reap with thanksgiving. And he is your board and your fireside. For you come to him with your hunger, and you seek him for … Continue reading →

Perfect weather for a delicious crush, no?

I. Guy: ”Are you off to paint the town red tonight?” Girl: “No.”  Guy:  ”Well, If you do, can I hold your bucket?” II. Girl 1: ” I want to bring something to the table.” Girl 2: “You always bring something to the … Continue reading →

Be bold. Embrace makes you unique. Love without fear. Laugh often and with great abandon. Make a big deal about big deals and work through the smaller stuff with ease. Kiss passionately. Hug warmly. Move your body as often as … Continue reading →

Guys, a colleagues niece, Noelle is in the Secret Millionaires Competition. She is now in the top 5 out of 50,000 kids. 20% of her grade (to win the competition) is based on votes that she gets for her invention. … Continue reading →

There are guides around you and colleagues with wisdom to share.  There are cheerleaders to encourage you, mentors to inspire you, partners and friends to love you. But no one can “save” your life but you. Your dreams are dots on … Continue reading →

The story of Charles Daniel will break your heart. R.I.P, Angel.

Get so stuck on the potential that you ignore a disrespectful reality. Avoid apologizing when you know you’ve made a mistake. Ignore that burning feeling that ignites in your gut when something isn’t right. Build your sense of accomplishment or … Continue reading →

No idea how I missed this track but I love it.  Then again, even when I hate a song by Enrique I love it. Reminds me of someone I used to know.  

Ready to move on (in a productive way)? Read my advice in this piece for iVillage.com My advice can be found on slides 2, 6, 9, 12 but read it all!

Over the years, I have made no secret of my passion for Mr. Clark Gable (see his Swoon post here) which is why I just gasped with delight when I came across the Dear Mr. Gable site this morning. Take … Continue reading →

My interview with Len Saunders.

“But you have to know that he’s afraid –of being exposed, of losing his freedom, of not living up to what he thinks you deserve.  Just know that he wants to be with you, even if he doesn’t know it; he shows it … Continue reading →

Today is the day. You’re about to speak (up).  You’re about to leap (forward). You’re about to love (without fear) and laugh (instead of allowing everything to upset you). You’re finally going to admit that every ending is also a … Continue reading →

“You don’t need anyone or anything.  Look at you, look at how well you are doing in your life. Anyone who is beside you is lucky. The end.” My friend, John V. This goes for you, too.  

J.Lo and Enrique just announced plans to tour together this Summer. Not to overstate my feelings but I can die now. Well, after the tour. BDC: J.Lo and Enrique are touring together. Stacey: OMG, I am in love with her … Continue reading →

I am looking to hear the silliest, craziest & dumbest advice men have ever given one another about women. Or perhaps it just sounds bad but you believe it actually works (i.e., negging a girl a la “The Game”.) Please send your 2-3 full sentence responses … Continue reading →

The best you can do is put yourself out there, say exactly how you feel and leave it up to them to decide. People will mistake perception for reality. You’ll have to start from scratch. We have to let go … Continue reading →

It happens when it’s real, not when you’re ready.

Last night, my girlfriend and I ended our “birthday month” with a bang by hosting a double bday bash at Lillium in the W hotel, Union Square. It was incredible to be surrounded by so many friendly and familiar faces and to just … Continue reading →

Girl 1: I can never finish a story with you when we are walking outside. Girl 2: That’s not true. He was just cute. Girl 1: You’re like the dog in “UP”.  Instead of squirrel’s, it’s men. Girl 3: Where can I find you … Continue reading →

Your beauty, intelligence, compassion and truth is never diminished by another person’s inability to recognize or acknowledge it. You have everything you need to get to where it is you want to go. You don’t need to be perfect. You just need … Continue reading →

E.B White’s “Here Is New York”.  I love to re-read it every few years.  A must-read for any New Yorker. The smell of Gardenia’s Walking across the Brooklyn Bridge on a balmy summer night. Dance lessons.  Salsa. Tango. Sign up! … Continue reading →

Get off of my baby’s face on your own or I’ll cut you. Even for Che, Not O.K.

Or maybe we Have many soul mates, platonic and otherwise.

                                                                      Cupid and Psyche    

My friend, Chiquira Wagner, posted this and I just had to share it.

While searching for travel tips for my impending trip to Italy (cannot wait!), I stumbled across this delightful blog.  I hope you will enjoy it as much as I did! Mara and I are going to have a dream vacation … Continue reading →

My Naughty Book Club: I just started it and am loving how many of my gf’s want in. First up: Fifty Shades of Grey (obviously). Saturday Stacey Dates: There are very few things as fun as spending time with a positive, supportive, fun … Continue reading →

Looking for a little extra motivation to get up and head out to the gym? New research shows that exercise not only makes your body better but it can also make you smarter! Love it!