Make a decision not to ever allow another person to give you anxiety. It sounds hard as you-know-what, but think about it: someone who respects you wants to work through things, not keep you on a tilt. Commit to yourself to working to make sure that no gets the right to have that control over you in this way.
Remember that not everyone is meant to be your friend. Some people are just colleagues, some people “just neighbors”, some people “just flings”.
Most of what people say and do to you has more to do with them than you. Only those who make a very concerted effort to be conscious and self-aware actually are.
You are absolutely not defined by what others say about you. You write your own definition with your words and actions. You decide what kind of legacy you will leave.
Remember that you choose how much effort you will put into getting what you want out of your life. You’re in full control.
Good people fall in love with and befriend people up to no good. It doesn’t make them fools, it makes them good people who fell in love with and befriended people up to no good.
I have said it before, but that’s because it is true: my inner circle is full of the most trustworthy, kind, loyal, smart, patient and wonderful men and women in the world. I feel blessed by the universe to have such an incredible family of friends and I feel that their love and guidence and support make navigating everything else much, much easier. Surround yourself with good people and be good to them.
You don’t need a thick skin, just wear your armor until you know what side they are on.
About dating, my friend, John always says, “The second you see a red flag, that’s it. Move on.” It works.
Fight for what you love, but otherwise it’s best to chase goals, not people.
–A special thank you to CR for inspiring so much of this post. You have trained me in ways that have changed my life.