If you could sit down and design your idea life, what would…

Your Location be?  Where would you really like to live?  What about this place appeals to you?  Is there a way you can move there?  If not, how can you make where you are more like where you’d like to be.  If you love where you are, what do you love about it?  How can you enjoy it even more?

Your Crew be Like? What kinds of people do you want to be surrounded by?  How what kinds of people would you avoid?  How would you interact with them?

Your personality be like? What does the best version of you look like?  What kinds of things does he/she do?  What kinds of things does he/she say?  What habits does he/she have?

Your Relationships be like?  How would you engage family, friends and coworkers?

Your Partner be like? What kind of lover/partner would you have?  What kinds of things would you do together?  How would you communicate?  What kinds of values would you share?

Your style be like?  Would you present yourself as you do now or change it up a bit?

Now, think about the answers to these questions and how different your ideal life is from the one you are living now.  If they are similar, great, keep doing what you are doing. But if there is a disconnect, sit down and think of ways you can start making changes.  The truth is that you decide what you will choose, what standards you will have for yourself, others and how you live.  You don’t need to win the lotto to make your dreams come true, you simply need to be willing to put in the work.