Monthly Archives: February 2010

Some things take quite a bit of time to decide-where to apply to school, for example-but many of the decisions we agonize over can be made in a short amount of time.  A Few Questions To Ask Yourself: Is this … Continue reading →

Take a look at the aspects of your life and personality that you feel are standing in the way of living your best life.  Now, think about the comments made to you and actions taken towards you as a child and … Continue reading →

Pennies are tossed around and aside without a second thought because they are deemed to be worth very little but who would throw a hundred-dollar bill out of the window or leave it laying on the sidewalk? If you give everything … Continue reading →

A recent study supports the theory that attracting a mate takes a lot more than high heels and a nice blowout.  What it really comes down to is sexy  genes.  Note:  I am interested in knowing how this effects men, mating and dating.

If you want to have more effective conversations with the opposite sex, speak their language. Ladies, you can’t speak to a man like you would a woman and expect the same result and the same goes for guys when talking to … Continue reading →

I just hosted a speaking event where 61 out of 70 women said their biggest turnoff was arrogant men.

Be honest about it. That’s all.

Simply dance in the rain.

There is no word as powerful as the statement made in an action.

It’s a strange and wonderful thing, the way the Universe conspires to match what’s in the mind.

Don’t sit there thinking about the life you want, the things you should have done or the dreams that have passed you by.  Put your foot on the gas and make up for lost time. There is still time, make … Continue reading →

There will always be whispers, criticisms and warnings. There will always be envy, projections and negative vibes. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t live a life that fulfills and pleases you.

I am sure most of you have heard about Lori Gottleib’s book, “Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough” by now, but if you haven’t, the book is based on her essay of the same name  which … Continue reading →

I am absolutely thrilled to have had my first piece for Redbook published!  If you’re interested in checking it out, pick up the March issue (Julia Louis-Dreyfus is on the cover) and turn to page 86.

The average adult can stay focused on a specific thing for a maximum of twenty minutes (and those who are busy or preoccupied can stay focused less than half that time).  Here’s how to be heard: Write out what you … Continue reading →

In honor of the excrutiatingly awkward moment in the elevator this afternoon when I complimented my new neighbor’s Spanish accent and mentioned how it reminded me of Enrique’s,   I thought I might post a few of video’s of my pop singer … Continue reading →

This is just too funny not to post.  Warning: It’s not intellectual humor and there are curse words but you’ll laugh.

Establishing boundaries in a new relationship isn’t always easy but establishing them in a relationship you have been in for some time can seem near impossible.  Here are a few tips to make the transition back to a more comfortable … Continue reading →

When we sit and worry, moan and complain, we usually find more to worry, moan and complain about?  Doing something is the key to making situations manageable, building confidence and proving to ourselves and the world that we truly are capable … Continue reading →

Is worth being grateful for.

A few days ago, I fell victim to an eyebrow waxing mishap that left me with missing skin on both sides of my face, under the brow bone.  The marks looked like a new set of eyebrows and I have … Continue reading →

You are absolutely whole as you are. You don’t have to be perfect to be lovable. You have come so far from where you started, even if it does not seem that way. There is so much more inside of … Continue reading →

Dear Brenda, Here’s an easy one for you: what’s the secret to making a marriage last? Cheers, Long Haul Dear Long Haul: Oh, if only I could lay out six or seven rules and assure you that not only would … Continue reading →

Use negative experiences and feelings about the past as fuel to live your best life now.  Instead of dwelling on situations that can’t be undone, see the here are now as a second chance and make a fresh start. Things … Continue reading →

This is horrifying.

Just a few days ago, I received some news that was the exact opposite of what I expected, what I thought I needed, and what I was sure was the only way towards what I was hoping to achieve.  Stunned, the room was filled with … Continue reading →

But it’s only to Knight me.

New York is the love of my life and has been since I first stepped foot into JFK at the age of 15.  The city makes me believe in magic.  Take a look at this beautiful metropolis through various lenses here  … Continue reading →

Facing a huge task can be overwhelming but biting off small chunks over a period of time can prove beneficial and I find it counteracts my urge to shuck it all together and toss everything back in the pile and … Continue reading →

Though it sounds like a chunk of common sense, in times of stress, few of us remember is a real value in sitting down and writing out what exactly we are feeling, what we want to achieve and what obstacles … Continue reading →

There have been times in my life when I begged and pleaded with the universe for something and got exactly what I asked for only to be terribly disappointed by the reality that it was better in theory.   Other  times, … Continue reading →

“Someone remind me that bad news is often good news in an ugly bag.” “What do you want to be when you grow up?” “Passion with compassion makes for great leaders.” “This day is the day you can make the … Continue reading →

Has anyone ever told you that you are remarkable?

There is no one who has achieved everything they have ever wanted to achieve the exact way they planned to achieve it.  Most of us have “failed” here and there. Those who get to where they want to go use … Continue reading →

Michael was my first big crush and this impresses me even more now than it did when I was squealing in front of the TV with my MJ doll.  A stage + A Mic +A spotlight + Michael = Amazing!

is not the person you are, and who you are, is not the person you will become. If you’re growing, that is.

comes great responsibility.

It’s morbid to some (and a blessing to others) but the thought of losing someone can often serve as a reminder of how much we never want to let them go.  Suddenly, the sock left on the floor, the dish in the … Continue reading →

Valentine’s Day is of no use  to you if you’re just going to use it as a ruler by which to measure all of the things you do not have,  but if you’re willing to use it as a day of reflection and focus on … Continue reading →

In the beginning of a relationship, it’s not always easy to spot someone who doesn’t think much of stepping over boundaries or will prove toxic, here are a few signs: They are Drama Queens or Kings:  You might fine their flair exciting … Continue reading →

When men and women are interested in one another they “mirror” one another’s movements. A man will often place his hands in his pockets and fan out his pants or sit with his legs spread as a way of “showing … Continue reading →

The more specific we are in our requirements for happiness, the more miserable we will be when things don’t work out exactly as we planned, and really, when does reality ever match up perfectly with expectations? Let us try to be flexible and … Continue reading →

Two days ago, I applied to win one of the 20 Personal Branding Cookie giveaways that were being offered through my colleague (personal branding expert and author, Dan Shawbel) and was thrilled to receive an email back that I had won a box of custom-made … Continue reading →

 It just means you’re available to enjoy a few rounds around the dating dancefloor with one of The 5 Men Every Gal Should Date Before she Settle’s Down!

Well, you all heard about one of my worst Valentine’s Days (aka “The Ground Beef Incident”) read about a better one (along with some other heartwarming stories) on BetteConfidential. What is Your Best Valentine’s Day Story?

Treat yourself with love and respect and hold yourself to the highest standards; you are worthy of a healthy and tranquil life. Know that your actions, words and choices are what define you; nothing else. Understand that we all make bad choices, … Continue reading →

Interested in reading my tips on how to merge finances and avoid financial infidelity?  Click here.

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It’s less important they understand you than it is for you to understand you.

What do you think of lovely Scarlett’s bachelorette pad?  Note: Click through all five images for a complete tour.