Monthly Archives: January 2009

What things are morally “right” and “wrong” across the board?

When you feel frustrated, depressed or disillusioned, what coping mechanisms do you indulge most often?

You can sit and wait for destiny to find you or you can create your own fate.

Is not  always perfectly pressed and bright. It gets wrinkled and stained and sometimes it loses its color for weeks at a time. This is a part of the experience. If we were happy all of the time, there would be … Continue reading →

Between what looks beautiful and what is beautiful.

Click here to listen to my interview on Timeless Women Speak.

What do you really want? Why do you want it?

To look in the proverbial mirror.

From birth we are told what we should be, what we should not do and what others expect of us.  We are reminded not to do this and why we need to do that.  We take on roles and personality … Continue reading →

The ego instigates and the clasp of identity won’t let (it) go.  Why is the need to have them concede so strong? Why does it go on so long? Does it matter if they agree with you?  Does it make … Continue reading →

When your heart shakes so hard that you feel the Earth move, where do you go? Deep into your head? Do you run to someone specific or anyone at all? Do you crawl under the covers and wait for the … Continue reading →

This is a piece about “dressing for your age” in which the writer commends Ms. Meryl Streep for “dressing appropriately”  (ie, fully covered) while knocking Ms. Susan Sarandon for not getting the memo that decollete is only allowed for the … Continue reading →

How many years you have been on this planet hardly defines your age.

Gives up control and allows us to deny the parts of ourselves that need cleaning. Own your issues and tackle them. You deserve your best life and only you can give that to yourself.

Strong Capable Bright Real Complete Still standing

No one owns you No one can tell you what is right for you, only what they think is right for you. No one has the right to blame you for their shortcomings (but many will). No one knows what your next … Continue reading →

Let the whole world doubt you if they want to (just don’t doubt yourself). Someone once told Einstein he was retarded, Lincoln he was a loser and Madonna that she would never make it. No one is born with a … Continue reading →

Being impulsive is great when signing up for Spanish lessons but when it comes to your life, create a 24 hour waiting period and make sure it’s what you really want.

For all things. The Good things that come your way. The bad things that teach you lessons. The catalysts for change. The broken people who cut you and make you take notice of your flesh. The second chances you get. … Continue reading →

You cannot control anything external but you choose how to react to it. You choose your words. You choose your triggers. You choose what will motivate and devastate you. You choose your friends. You choose your direction in life. You … Continue reading →

Some people are mean… Others just don’t care… Most cannot see past their noses… A lot of people lie… But some aren’t… Some do… and some can… and Won’t… They are the ones who make life lovely.

Emotional Support or Financial Support? Love or Lust? Passion or Patience? Wit or Wisdom? Sex-Appeal or Sex?

You came from where you came from. You have been who you have been. Y ou have said things you wish you hadn’t and done things you know now you shouldn’t have. That’s what happens in most lives. Growth is … Continue reading →

Sometimes you do it with friendships that have gone awry. Sometimes with sworn enemies you have no intention of ever speaking to again. Sometimes you have to do it with yourself.

Tends to be the greatest shield sometimes.

There are updates all over the site and more new posts after the “older entry” jump below.  Take some time and poke around a bit!  I hope you like it. Brenda

LIVE without fear of being judged HOPE with deep faith LAUGH with serious sincerity LOVE unconditionally FORGIVE yourself UNDERSTAND it’s not always what you think it is WATCH what you say about others TRY harder more often CRY without shame … Continue reading →

You’ve lived. You’ve Learned. You’ve Grown. That’s Life!

You let go of your pride and just apologized? You did something nice for someone because you wanted to see them smile? You got tested? You were 100% honest? You decided to change your life? You took a chance? You … Continue reading →

Perfection is only possible in simple things You are a complex creature Complexity is never perfect… It’s beautiful and unique. We are all a little broken (and that’s OK) Our cracks are what make us real. They make us kind. Don’t deny … Continue reading →

Toast Yourself!  Whether its with tea, coffee or a delightful cocktail, take a moment and celebrate a job well-done (even if it was simply making it to work on time!). Give into a Craving:Have the cookie, make the call, wink at the … Continue reading →

Those who live in a web of lies will often hang themselves by their own deception,  even if the lies they whisper are in their own ears. 

It is an unfortunate reality that regardless of how patiently you lay it out, there are people in this world who will never understand you. No matter how much you try and explain yourself, they will blame you for things you did not … Continue reading →

Improve yourself Change your outlook Give yourself a chance Lose the toxic attachments Free yourself from the pain caused by those people in your past Stop judging yourself Realize you are not perfect (and don’t have to be) Know your … Continue reading →

If you are constantly running around, running yourself ragged and running yourself into the ground for someone who never notices the fact that you’re panting or offers you a glass of water, maybe you should take a seat on the sidelines and … Continue reading →

Sometimes we expect too much from others. We expect them to follow our rules. We expect them to live their lives as we live our own. We expect them to feel as we feel, need as we need, want as we … Continue reading →

It often takes on a lot of extra responsibilities that it is not responsible for and does so out of compassion and caring. Is not so much about meeting for Happy Hours or taking trips to the beach but about respecting … Continue reading →

When was the last time you evaluated the people in your life? If it has been too long, prepare yourself as you might be in for a bit of a shock.  Many times, when we open our eyes, we are shocked by the … Continue reading →

  The world is as much your world as it is ours and you have a right to live, love, laugh and express yourself without having to altar who you are to appease someone who doesn’t understand you.

There is a gentle softness that comes with doing something for the sole purpose of making someone else feel good. Whether letting your assistant  to know you appreciate them, reminding your partner of how much you value them or letting a close friend … Continue reading →

When was the last time you truly honored yourself?   The last time you said no to things you didn’t want to do and said yes to yourself when you desired to do something totally self-indulgent? When was the last … Continue reading →

Let go of the worry that no one will understand, Of the fear you might fail if you go at it alone, Release all of the tension caused by judgment And the stress of trying to avoid having that judgment … Continue reading →

  That the time, love and compassion someone share’s with you is a beautiful gift they choose to give.  No one has to be in your life.  No one has to care about how you feel or how you are … Continue reading →

  Sometimes we get so caught up in the habits we have created that we allow our lives to float on autopilot and rarely, if ever,  question the ways in which we respond to others, to life and to ourselves.  Take … Continue reading →

  The person you will become  depends on the decisions you make right now.

Be who you are without pretense or phoniness. Understand that none of us are perfect but all of us are complete. Even when in an emotional haze, fight and work to see yourself clearly. Whatever you are going through, you … Continue reading →

Success can bring out the best and worst in others. Whether you’re enjoying the simple feeling of accomplishment that comes with  getting through a tough day or have achieved a major life goal and want to share the experience,   there is often someone lurking in the corner, … Continue reading →

Is when one realizes they had it all and never appreciated it and now it’s gone forever. What are some ways you can appreciate what is in your life right now?

But listen closely to what others are not saying to find the real story.

Some “failures” are not really failures at all.