Happiness is as happiness does. Read below for 10 ways to bring serenity now!  Ok, maybe not right this instant, but soon.

Do I Seek To Add Value?

One of the things I always advise my interns to do is to sit down and think about the ways they have added value to the jobs and organizations they have worked in.  No one wants to hire someone who does the bare minimum, or worse, diminishes the value of a situation.  Mindless gossip, unnecessary criticism and standing around doing nothing all subtract from a situation, even if simply pulling out the peace or productivity.

Do I Surround Myself With People Who Enhance My Life Experience?

Remember your clubbing days? You never wanted to spend your evening with the riff-raff in some sketchy club.  Why would you want to spend your life with them?

When Was The Last Time I Learned/Tried Something New?

It sounds like a silly cliché, but knowledge does give you an edge–in conversations, the boardroom, and on dates when the table you booked won’t be available for the rest of the night.  Be warned, there’s a caveat: You have to actually use the information you acquire to your greatest advantage.  Learning a new word each day is only effective when you use these words to create a better daily vocabulary, and since anxiety and fear are based on uncertainty and ignorance, hello reason to research!

What Influence Do I Have On My Own Life?

People-pleasing lecture aside, the days of your life won’t always be enjoyable, but if your life would call you a hater, it’s time to make some changes.  You won’t always want to do what your friends, family members or partner want you to do and your best friend may be really against a life decision, but unless you are doing something truly destructive or disrespectful, there’s zero reason for guilt (or guilt trips).  Sit down and think about the life you would be living if you didn’t have to worry about being judged.  That’s what you need to work towards.

 Do I Get Swayed By Emotion or Stick To The Facts?

Feelings are notoriously misleading, but facts, while not always candy-coated, are reliable.  I have found that the only time people get angry when faced with them are when they feel guilty, ashamed, embarrassed or are trying to get something over on me.

Am I Impulsive?

Just because you are being offered something you want or will enjoy does not mean you should “reach out and grab it” the second it appears.  That “once in a lifetime opportunity” will likely not evaporate in the 24-48 hours (or longer for bigger decisions) you need to sit and think more about it.  I mean, if Enrique Iglesias calls you and asks you to go on tour, fine, consider going on leave, but signing contracts, rushing to their door to profess your undying love and moving house last-minute are worth some pillow time. Bottom Line: Follow your heart, use your head.

Do I Own My Behavior Or Judge It?

OK, you said you would go to the gym.  You didn’t.  You went to have margaritas and nachos with your friends instead.  Congratulations, you now have a memory and maybe a hangover.  Accept that most of us do what we want to do and that on the nights toning is more important to you than tacos, you’ll swipe your gym card.

Can People Count On Me?

Do you say what you mean, do what you say, and are you where you say you will  be( and fully present) when you’re supposed to be there?

 Am I Appreciative?

That dog that annoys you every morning when he needs to go out greets you with love and forgiveness every time you open the door.  That coworker who takes time out of his or her day to read over your email or grab you a water, they don’t have to, you know?  That friend who spends three hours on Gchat helping you deal with a guy situation?  That’s a gift.

Is It Really That Important?

That sink will get fixed.  That email was not that serious. Your boss is human. Everyone’s job is stressful.  Your jeans will fit again. Now what?